The power of acting ‘As If’ | Richard Wiseman
November 16, 2012 Leave a comment
http://richardwiseman.wordpress.com/2012/10/10/the-power-of-acting-as-if/
Finding the Truth – Cognitive Bias
October 24, 2012 Leave a comment
My destiny in life as given to me by my parents is to be “one who see’s things clearly” – this could be interpreted from everything from seeing through lies to full power clairvoyance! What remains is that I (as are many) are on a quest for the truth, to be able to see the truth of things as they are. Yet we muddy our own waters and give ourselves our own obstacles. One of the main ways that we do this is through Bias. Read more of this post
Process to deal with Anger
July 9, 2012 Leave a comment
There is an old school Hindu process that I still use this day when I find myself spending energy being annoyed or angry or anything else that is negative. Been using it since the BBC Micro computer days, so this is how I will lay it out:
10 “Do something about it (anything)”
20 “Let it go”
30 IF unable to “let it go”, Go to 10
I find it incredibly useful! The interesting thing about the “do something about it (anything)” is that you literally can do anything. It is not about achieving a result (though that is what you are aiming for), the sheer act of doing something in itself seems to have the effect of helping one to let the annoyance/anger go and makes you feel instantly better. I swear by this process any time I feel anoyed or angry. It isn’t always easy to make yourself do it, but it always works if followed!
Course, this is not as useful as the process:
10 Print “The Rampant Man is FAB”
20 Go to 10
30 Run
But almost as good!
An ounce of action is worth a ton of theory
January 24, 2012 Leave a comment
It says it all in the title: An ounce of action is worth a ton of theory. Every time you do something you do something you learn. If there is something that you want to get good at, the more that you do it the better that you would get at it.
When out and about, what would make you smile? What would make you laugh? What would you enjoy. Confidence is bullshit, it is about not giving a damn. If you get a good result great, if you get a bad result, great. No matter what happens, no matter what the out come, it is about knowing that you can deal with it.
Charisma – it is just communicating with emotion. Raise an emotion and you have charisma. It does not matter what the emotion is, as long as there is an emotion.
Who are we - what ever belief that we have needs evidence to back it up. How do you know that you are awesome? You have to create the evidence for yourself by interpreting what happens in the world as it happens.
You are your own best teacher - by teaching and learning yourself you become congruent with it. The stuff you find out through the problems that you encounter, you own that knowledge, you really do. All the play that you ever do you learn from it and you grow from it. Anxiety does occur, but rather than try and blast through it, revel in it. Enjoy it. Accept it. Increase it if you want!
The people that are self amused that have the most fun - The fear is looking like a crazy. If I slide down banisters, if I act like a kid again, if I am playful, if I start enjoying myself, what are other people going to think? It doesn’t matter what other people think, what ever anyone thinks is bullshit, it is what you think.
For more from Marcus go to his corporate website where he has loads of stuff as a Charisma Coach.
NLP model – the rampant man method
December 14, 2011 Leave a comment
Went out with a friend of mine. He does NLP and stuff and he sent me this email. I don’t really know how I can use this to improve yet, but here is what he said…
If I was to NLP model you, I would say..
1) be Asian
2) be Slim (wear thick jumper to look muscular)
3) Be 31 but look 23.
4) Wear a hat that every women in the club will want to touch.
5) Be super high energy, be excitable!
6) Run a blog (like Barney).
7) Have a cool job.
8) Have some money.
9) Have a very nice phone, take pictures with chicks.
10) have a London vibe wherever you go.
You are allowed to be awesome
November 25, 2011 Leave a comment
Chapter 7 – blue print foundations
Knowing that you can be awesome, just give yourself permission to be in state. The same with women, give yourself permission to be good with women. Thuds is what the followimg do-
-being out with awesome friends larger group… You give yourself instant permission to be in state
-having socially superficial value, car, house, suit etc.
-having something that other people want
-competence, when competent you give yourself permission to be awesome
As a guy, you ned to associate your self as someone who is good south women.
IDENTITY LEVEL CONFIDENCE- this is the core competence that gives yourself permission all the time. It is where you know who you are and that you are allowed to do anything. No situational confidence needed, no friends, not the right clothes, not the right venue, nothing. Believing in yourself that you deserve women as party of your identity.
So where can this identity come from? How do you prove this to yourself?
People who externally validate are at the mercy if how people respond to you. This is not a good place to be. Thuds it’s where you determine your reality from other people and your state follows your reality. So if they say you suck, you will feel you suck.
People who are internally motivated don’t have this problem, but they can become arse holes and not tuned in. they can not knower where they are.
There is a perfect balance between the two.
Do why should you hasn’t core confidence? Well, if you are living your life in reaction, then you provably shouldn’t have ghias core confidence. If you hand a shit life you hate then you probably don’t have core confidence.
Social pinging…
Tyler Duden’s 10 tips for removing negative input into your brain!
October 26, 2011 Leave a comment
1- REMOVE THE INTERNET FROM YOUR HOUSE
2- REMOVE TELEVISION FROM YOUR HOUSE
3- POUND YOURSELF FULL OF BERRIES AND FRUITS AND VEGETABLES AND CLEAN MEATS
4- BLACK OUT YOUR BED ROOM AND SLEEP IN THE PITCH DARK
5- TURN YOUR DAMNED CELL PHONE OFF
6- RECOGNIZE DRAMA AND AVOID IT
7- WHEN YOU DO SOMETHING FUN MAKE SURE IT’S SOMETHING YOU REALLY ENJOY
8- MEDITATE FOR 20 MINUTES A DAY
9- POUND YOU BRAIN FULL OF OXYGEN BY EXERCISING
10- READ BOOKS THAT HAVE THE VIBE THAT YOU WANT FOR YOURSELF
Sedona method for emotional control – review
October 25, 2011 Leave a comment
Here is an email sent to me by a good friend on the Sedona Method….
Action for actions sake
September 20, 2011 Leave a comment
Do we do something because we want the reward from that action (e.g. money for working) or should we focus on doing the things that we enjoy for the actions sake?
This is something that is playing very strongly in my mind at the moment. We get caught in the illusion of trying to “achieve” – and whilst this is important for motivation we need to better find the line between achieving and enjoying the journey.
We are taught to do the action for the actions sake and let go of the fruit of the action – yet the motivation to act stems heavily from the end goal – does it not?
