Polish date – After action report

So she was weird! Nice looking girl, but a little strange. Met her then went to the cafe bar place, it was a really good venue! She was very argumentative, and it felt like I started by having an argument with her! Everything I said to begin with she contested, and actually very early on I considered bailing on the date.
To begin with she was very don’t touch me. She physically told me at the start that polish women don’t like to be touched by people they don’t know.

AS THINGS SETTLED down she relaxed more. Funny, when she was talking about stuff she was into she quickly became attractive, but remained nit that great when argueing.

I think I copied fairly well with it.

Moments-

Her telling me that she left poland because everyone was so miserable… with a really miserable look on her face!

Me Doing a bit of chat to another girl and her getting a little jealous.

Going to see her light switch on the walls as gorilla art with ‘ switch on your happiness’ on it, and when I pointed out the heart that someone had drawn around it, she suddenly got happy and it was really sweet. She opened up for a brief moment, and got that second I did fancy her.

Outcome-
A kiss on the cheek at 11 pm then a train home.

What did I do well-
The date set up emails were good

Doing the date!

Staying for the impro and turning up late for the date… If I had sacrificed the impro in the hopes of bring better for the girl I would have been annoyed at myself.

Taking coffee late as my drink of choice

Not caring too much about the outcome…

despite her saying not to touch her at the beginning of the night, escalating whilst inn the cafe to some touching, sitting next to her etc etc.

WHAT COULD I HAVE DONE BETTER?

Escalated more.

Gone for the kiss.

Kiss closedst the end, must get better at this.

Lead more. Even though she was very dominating, I should have put my foot down and tried to lead and dominate more.

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Friday afternoon is golden time for online approach!

So I am on a train on the way to a date. I arranged it only 2 hours ago via a record low word count… It’s an internet date so I know little to nothing about the girl, only that according to her profile she is mostly vegi. it felt like this happened with very little effort on my part, I used an opening bit of text that I have used before and only slightly customised to her profile, and quickly moved to arrange a meeting… in fact I think that she drive the meeting more than I did, if anything when she first suggested it I had to make sure that I half rejected it just to ensure I retained some value!

So what is the learning here?

Friday lunchtime to early after noon is prime time for online approach! What?! But surely everyone on a friday is looking forward to the weekend of friends and going out? Ah! But what about those people who are single and lonely?

You respond- Surely those girls just go out to a club, stand there and wait to get hit on?
Ash! But what about the ones who don’t club, who don’t want to go through the face to face fear of baa.. Being approached anxiety? Those st the ones inter net dating, and perhaps friday afternoon if the perfect time bedside they Want to be going out friday night but have no date yet….

This is only a theory, but one that I think I am going to test. It certainly feels like this meeting was made easier because of the logistics of get only having a few hours to make something happen before she looses another friday evening to singledom!

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Brilliant online success – kiss – followed by buyers (kiss) remorse

So It started with the following email exchange via an internet dating website. This exchange went really well and resulted in a date – thanks to http://makeshiftalpha.wordpress.com/ for his help with the content and structure.

Here is the string – underneath is the outcome. This email chat up is AWESOME!!!! (the ending is not however)

• Ears of a young Clark Gable no, left toe of an geeky Frank Sinatra yes!

• Sep 18, 2011 – 11:35pm Hmmm well maybe that will do (what about the right toe??).What kind of ‘groovy places’ are you seeking recommendations for? As a Londoner born and bred I should be able to come up with something…

  Jess x

• Sep 19, 2011 – 1:11pm Well it’s less the places and more the events. I am an actor really involved in the London fringe scene. It would be fun to go see something more mainstream – what are the big shows you would recommend?Ah – also I am really into my puppetry at the moment if you know any. I’m currently the puppeteer for Charlie on Charlie and Lola. Yesterday we had brilliant audiences, loads of fun.

  So what about you Jess, you ever brave enough to tread the boards or do you just watch from the shadows?

• Sep 19, 2011 – 7:51pm Sod it. If you are free tomorrow… are you up for an adventure?!

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How to write an email – and not be a Chode

I am trying some online dating right now, and I approached a girl who is into theatre. I gave this, and got this response:

Sep 18, 2011 – 11:35pm